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Ost of us perform please and perfect all the while thinking What if I can't keep all of these balls in the air Why isn't everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations What will people think if I fail or give up When can I stop proving myselfIn The Gifts of Imperfection Bren頂rown PhD a leading expert on shame authenticity and belonging shares what she's learned from a decade of research on the power of Wholehearted Living a way of engaging with I really like Brene Brown she gave a terrific and funny TED talk about her research concerning the importance of vulnerability of imperfection of failure and so I read her book I think her thesis is superb her research about shame and wholeheartedness really interesting and the message of the book necessary to modern life But I can t help it I hoped for a little perfectionism in the writing and structuring of the book as a whole which could have used another round or two of editing I m sorry Brene Old habits die hard STILL it is an important idea and worth readingTwo other wishes1 That she included us in the process of her research I d like to see some examples and learn better or directly how she drew her conclusions Call me a geek I like the science of it and I think it would make for a interesting read 2 I think she might enlarge her audience It felt to me as though the book were written for the privileged those employed in demanding dream jobs with financial stability and intact families Don t those down on their luck need help with turning failure into opportunity Not all of the book felt this way but some of it did I also wasn t a fan of the religious element she seemed to enlarge the discussion for people of all faithsno faith and then in another part return to her own Perhaps this was not entirely bothersome as it is written from her point of view in her voice but these inclusions felt a little narrow and even shallow at timesAnd one last thing I think a lot of self help books are written for the spa set I am not saying this book fits into that category entirely but it feels like many do After all many people can t afford to scale back and are working several jobs just to buy orange juice and gas just now And health insurance The cost of prescription drugs And good God the student loan And foreclosures I read somewhere that the average income for a family of four is 40000 Is that true If it is And of course too many people are out of work or have work that in no way represents who they are because they have to have a job So Sometimes I think these books are a little out of touch And lack gratitude in fundamental ways financial stability a job of one s dreams A roof over one s head The ability to protectfeeduse preventative careimmunize etc and educate and nurture one s children Well So I have said it And perhaps it is unfair It is not wrong to also think about oneself and to grow in important ways no matter one s circumstances But one place that stood out to me in this text was a trip to the mall with her daughter not having washed her hair and thrown it back with a headband I believe it was There are some sparkling clean women there with their children and her daughter begins to dance to the music as they do in their kitchen at home as a family She decides not to allow the judgment of these women bother her and instead dances with her daughter to the music On the surface sort of sweet Combatting the shame maybe being messed up and dancing in public while people at least appear to think you are nuts maybe they don t really and that is one s made up fantasy who knows BUT I was thinking about another reader What about the shamevulnerabilityfeelings of failure or imperfection of not being able to afford a pair of shoes for one s daughter And apologizing to one s daughter walking by the women with shopping bags and children with new clothes Or not being able to go to the mall at all Isn t it deeply fortunate to dance while shopping and return home with plenty or all one needs hair unwashed or not Still I do think the central message of Brown s book is instructive and as I said important But I sometimes think these books lack a sense of perspective or proportion

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The Gifts of Imperfection

New York Times best selling author and professor Brené Brown offers a powerful and inspiring book that explores how to cultivate the courage compassion and connection to embrace your imperfections and to recognize that you are enoughEach day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who what and how we should be We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives we'd no longer feel inadeuate So m I ve read than my fair share of self help literature so I can assert with conviction that this is not a self help book Instead it s a revelation book Each chapter triggered numerous ah Ha moments for me because Dr Brown goes a step or two or five beyond the common way of looking at or framing an issue to reveal the interconnectedness of elements that stall or sabotage our efforts to live a satisfying life Instead of the that doesn t uite resonate vibe I often get from self help books Dr Brown s perspectives ring true and she re labels certain attitudes and experiences in a way that s both startling and importantly hopeful She gleans her insights from her research centered on living a wholehearted life which grew out of her previous perhaps ongoing study of shame The results that Dr Brown presents in this slim readable book are nothing short of fascinating and they function not as a how to manual for uickly fixing an out of balance life but as a set of powerful tools with which to cultivate a richer fully engaged and connected life

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The world from a place of worthinessIn her ten guideposts Brown engages our minds hearts and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think No matter what gets done and how much is left undone I am enough and to go to bed at night thinking Yes I am sometimes afraid but I am also brave And yes I am imperfect and vulnerable but that doesn't change the truth that I am worthy of love and belongi This book is basically meaningless and worthless to meNot due to any fault on Brown s part but simply because I do not need or want self help books She seems to be focusing on a reader that is obsessed with her own flaws or who is a perfectionist and self hater I am none of these thingsI just found the book extremely boring That being said I did find two passages I liked Shame loses power when it is spokenTrue Talking about what makes you a shameful person really frees you and often helps you see that you are not alone For example research on the attributes that we associate with being feminine tells us that some of the most important ualities for women are thin nice and modest That means if women want to play it totally safe we have to be willing to stay as small uiet and attractive as possibleWhen looking for the attributes associated with masculinity the researchers identified these as important attributes for men emotional control primacy of work control over women and pursuit of status That means if men want to play it safe they need to stop feeling start earning and give up on meaningful connectionTrue


10 thoughts on “The Gifts of Imperfection

  1. says:

    I've read than my fair share of self help literature so I can assert with conviction that this is not a self help book Instead it's a revelation book Each chapter triggered numerous ah Ha moments for me because Dr Brown goes a step or two or five beyond the common way of looking at or framing an issue to reveal the interconnectedness of elements that stall or sabotage our efforts to live a satisfying life Instead of the that doe

  2. says:

    I read this book after watching Brown's TED talk on vulnerability The TED talk was shown as the last exercise for

  3. says:

    You may have noticed a theme in my last couple posts I'm rundown overwhelmed and I realize that while my priorities are right in my head they aren't in reality So the book I'm reviewing today really came at a perfect time in my own personal crisis In fact as I was reading along yesterday yes I totally procrastinated reading it due to other books taking up my precious little reading time I thought to myself This

  4. says:

    I had to mark this as read to get if off my list Actually I had to abort the read Just could not relate to a word of it at all I feel like this author is speaking a different language I have a hard time believing anybody really CARES that much

  5. says:

    Update This book changed my life Dramatic as it sounds it's true I wrote this on Brené's Facebook pageBrenéI've just about finished your book The Gifts of Imperfection which I discovered after watching you speak on TED tal

  6. says:

    I really like Brene Brown she gave a terrific and funny TED talk about her research concerning the importance of vulnerability of imperfection of failure and so I read her book I think her thesis is superb her research about shame and wholeheartedness really interesting and the message of the book necessary to modern life But I can'

  7. says:

    She makes it feel and seem so easythe main message here is Let go of your insecuritiesexpectations shame guilt discomfort Ha

  8. says:

    So I'm just going to be honest and vulnerable with you all I have issues with not being good enough being vulnera

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    This book is basically meaningless and worthless to meNot due to any fault on Brown's part but simply because I do not need or want self help books She seems to be focusing on a reader that is obsessed with her own flaws or who is a perfectioni

  10. says:

    4 stars Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day It's about the choice to show up and be real The choice to be honest The choice to let our true selves be seen non fiction challenge

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